I have found gratitude to be an amazing practice in my own marriage and life. When I am grateful for my husband, I am more forgiving towards him. When I practice gratitude, it’s easier for me to face hard times. And, really, I have so much to be grateful for.

I have the most incredible job. I get to help people improve their relationships and their lives. And, today, I want to dedicate this post-Thanksgiving blog post to my clients.

Thanksgiving: An open letter of gratitude

Thank you for letting me into your world, your pain, your marriage. Thank you for opening up, being vulnerable, and showing me the real meaning of courage. Witnessing your willingness to put down your mask and disclose your deepest, darkest wounds and heal against all odds is humbling. And each and every session you inspire me more than you would ever guess.

I know that things are hard and that you’re hurting. I know that the affair was painful, divorce might be on the table, and you’re not sure about your future right now. But you impress me with each step you take towards figuring it out and reconnecting with yourself and your partner. I have the utmost respect for you. Your tenacity is something I deeply admire.

Supporting you on your journey has truly been an honor. I have seen such pain, possibility and growth in you as you face your hurts and put into place your new coping skills.

No matter what happens with you and your relationship, you can know that you gave it your all. You don’t hold back. And that level of commitment is something that many can only admire.

So thank you for letting me be part of your journey. It has, and will continue to be, an honor.


Theresa Herring, LMFT