Couples Counseling

Want to stop feeling like roommates and start feeling like soul mates?

Are you looking to improve your relationship, feel connected, and be more intimate?

Small things seem to blow up into big arguments. Every day you’re feeling less and less like the happy couple that you used to be. And you’re starting to worry that if something doesn’t change, there will be no going back. And that scares you. A lot. You want to ditch the frustration and replace it with connection. But all of your attempts to connect seem to get shut down. And the resentment builds. And sometimes it seems all you ever do is bicker and nag and argue.

You want to communicate without it becoming an argument. You want to feel like your partner has your back. And you really, really want to get out of this roommate rut. You’re tired of feeling disconnected and alone. So even though you’ve committed to this person for better or for worse, you’d like to get back to the “better” part.

The truth is that you’ve tried everything that you could think of but nothing has worked. So now you’re willing to give couples therapy a try. When things get tough, couples therapy can offer hope. Hope for a better relationship, improved communication, and more intimacy. Let’s not settle for frustration, bitterness, and feeling lonely in your relationship. Instead let’s co-create a better partnership—one where you feel heard, supported, and valued.

You and your partner are not alone in this struggle

I know that you’re feeling alone right now and maybe even a little hopeless. But I want you to know that I have worked with many couples who feel more like roommates than soul mates. It’s not uncommon for previously happy couples to hit some bumps in the road. Or even large roadblocks like affairs. And it’s absolutely possible to move past these bumps and/or roadblocks and have a stronger, more connected relationship than ever before. How cool is that? I really do feel like I have the greatest job ever…

Your relationship can get better. Couples counseling can help.

I’m Theresa Herring, a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, and helping couples get back on track is my superpower. As your couple’s therapist, I’ll work with you to improve communication and pinpoint patterns that keep you stuck. I do not pick sides and mediate fights so that someone is “right.” You’re both right (that was your emotional experience) and you’re both wrong (you cannot read your partner’s mind. I swear). But in couples therapy we are going to focus more on connecting than being right.

Together we’ll figure out what’s behind the problems and come up with solutions that work for your unique situation. No two couples are the same and so I don’t use a cookie-cutter approach. I meet couples where they’re at so that I can help them create a relationship that works for them. You need someone who gets you—individually and as a couple. This is where I excel.

Couples share that they appreciate that I’m warm and empathetic, they enjoy my sense of humor, and like that I don’t choose sides. But, more than anything, they are glad that they were able to get the help to improve their relationship.

Most of the couples who see me for couples therapy learn to:

• Handle conflict in healthier and more loving ways
• Communicate their needs more effectively
• Heal past hurts and resentments
• Rebuild intimacy and strengthen their emotional bond
• Bring affection and fun back into their relationship

Does this sound good to you? If so, reach out and schedule your free 15 minute phone consultation.

This all sounds good but…

We’ve tried couples counseling before and it didn’t work. Why would this time be different?

I don’t blame you for being hesitant! In fact, I want to give you a lot of credit for being open to it at all. The sad truth is that many couples are unimpressed with their marriage therapists. Most often this is because their therapist didn’t have adequate training in couples counseling. Not all therapists are not couples therapists (even if they offer it on their website). Luckily for you I am. Not only do I have extensive training and experience in providing couples therapy but I also have an excellent track record for helping couples. It’s my passion and I’m damn good at it.

Couples therapy is expensive. Can’t I use my insurance?

Couples who see me for counseling are willing to invest in their relationship—emotionally and financially. It’s not cheap but, to them, it’s worth it. They’d rather not be limited to therapists on their insurance plan (because they want to be able to pick someone who’s the right fit). In addition many couples want to forgo the mental health diagnosis that’s required for insurance. Paying out of pocket for couples therapy is an investment both financially and in your relationship. Ultimately it comes down to: Is it worth it to you? Is your relationship worth $200 a week? Chances are that if your car broke down, you’d pay to have it fixed. And you’d probably pay for necessary dental work, an unexpected medical bill, or emergency home repair. Is your marriage any less of a priority?

My partner isn’t sure that they want to be in this relationship anymore. Can you help?

Yes. But I’d recommend discernment counseling. The reason I suggest discernment counseling is because couples therapy doesn’t work for mixed agenda couples. Couples therapy requires both partners to be invested in improving the relationship. When one person is on the fence about the relationship and the other is trying to save it, discernment counseling is the best option. And I want to set you up for success.

The bottom line…

• Relationship problems don’t just go away. You need to address them.
• Conflict is normal. Just don’t let the way you fight tear you apart.
• Unaddressed problems can, overtime, erode a relationship to the point of divorce. Don’t let this happen to you.
• With the right help. relationships can improve. Are you ready to work on yours?

Now’s your chance to start reconnecting with your partner, improving your communication, and healing past hurts. Are you ready to take the next step and become a happy couple again? Schedule your free fifteen-minute consultation today!